Comparisons – Good Or Bad habit?

Q: I find that I am always comparing myself to others. Why do I do this?

A: I believe that most of us have a tendency to compare ourselves to others. It’s a natural part of being human. At some level, comparisons can be healthy as you may feel motivated to or inspired to emulate those whom you admire. When it gets tricky is if you compare yourself to others in a judgmental way such as fear, scarcity, jealousy. Yes, we all do it time to time, however, you want to see everyone on equal ground as opposed to someone is better or worse than you. The problem is that society condones this. It can be addictive as your insecurities fuel it and the habit becomes hard to break.

Remind yourself that it doesn’t matter how much money someone makes or how perfect their life seems to be. We all have something; humanness. We all go through various trials and tribulations regardless of what it seems to be like with someone else.

When you don’t put yourself above or below another, rather see yourself as an equal because your life is uniquely designed for you, a special, unique you. Remember, this takes practice, but every situation you encounter you will feel stronger. Be sure to work on shifting your mindset to focus on yourself and all of your unique gifts. Select someone to whom you compare yourself and make this person your test case before you go onto others. Be sure to appreciate them and their unique gifts and let them know you value them. Learn from their positive points.

What you admire can become a part of your own life. Wish this person well. It will help you to value yourself and attract more success.