FINDING PEACE AFTER LOSS

How to move through grief…

It’s inevitable…

We cannot get through this life without pain and loss. Loss comes in many forms from minor to major losses.

Losing a loved one is something you’re never quite prepared for, even if the person was sick for many years or you are experiencing a painful divorce. The impact of grief and loss on mind, body, spirit and emotions is one that can’t be prevented. However, you can gain a bit of clarity by seeking guidance and finding peace amidst your grief.

How should I feel?

There’s no right or wrong way to feel after losing someone. What’s important is that you allow yourself to feel. You could be feeling many things at once – anger, sadness, hurt confusion – or you may be numb, still in a state of shock. It might be hard for you to truly accept right now.

Perhaps you can’t stop crying or feeling emotional at any given moment. Grief comes in waves. Let yourself feel whatever it is you’re feeling.

Accept that this is part of the process, and it’s okay to be sad, hurt, or even angry. Give yourself permission to be upset about it and truly feel all your emotions. Remember that tears are healing.

Sometimes the best way to get out your feelings and frustration after loss is to write them down. Writing down your uncensored thoughts and feelings can be cathartic and will help restore your sense of peace.

The point is to give you an outlet for your pain and frustration so that it doesn’t stay repressed.

I can help…

Your friends and family may feel distant to you right now. Everyone has their own way of coping with grief; yours might not fall in line with others. It’s all about what feels right to you in this time of suffering.

Keep in mind that there’s no timeline for your grief. It’s very individualized. I have trained and counseled many people through times and experiences like yours. I know how to help you journey through your pain into a peaceful acceptance.

You may have moved on with your life in some ways, but still cry every few days. It’s important to remember that grief won’t always be center stage in your life, but that person’s memory and your love for them will always remain in your heart. Take your time healing and know that loss is something you don’t “get over”; rather, you heal.

You are not alone.

If it has been several months and you still feel it is like your first day of mourning, your grief could have turned into a complex, deep depression or what is known as complicated grief. This is the type of intense grief that makes it feel impossible to move on, where the sufferer feels no improvement and, instead, constantly disrupted by the loss of their loved one.

If you feel like this is the case, please seek professional treatment. You don’t have to carry the burden alone. I would be pleased to walk with you to help you move forward. Please call me at (970) 376-4163 or complete the contact form below.