Q: My boyfriend always says we are going to do something, then he decides not to and I am left disappointed. What does it mean when he doesn’t follow through?
A: When you have an expectation and trust that your significant other will follow through and does not, it can lead to frustration, resentment, bewilderment and disappointment. There is obviously an avoidance gong on here. Avoidance happens to be the number one coping technique. This type of behavior is damaging to a relationship even if it’s in the beginning stages of dating. Why don’t you ask him point-blank why he is not in alignment behaviorally with what he says? See if you can understand the breakdown in his miscommunication. You can also ask him what he wants and make him aware that what he says is misaligned with his actions and how this makes you feel.
If he continually hurts and disappoints you, you will want to get clear and ask your inner guidance what you want and if it is worth it to you to continue this relationship. You cannot change his behavior however, you can change how you choose to handle yours. At the very least, if he is just preoccupied or too busy to follow through, do you really want this kind of person in your life? Get clear with what you really want and if it is to be with someone who is present and cognizant of honoring and respecting you, then perhaps you need to move on. Your intuition already knows, so tune in and your answer lies within.