Q: I have noticed a pattern of selecting women who have similar qualities to my mother that are negative. How can I break this pattern?
A: It is most likely that you have subconsciously chosen these women as we are programmed to select the partner that we need to work through lessons we didn’t get with one or both parents. It can be a powerful match, however, it’s usually dealing with working through those issues. Relationships come with lessons to learn and when something strikes you that reminds you of a parent, you can heal through that relationship through conscious communication or learn and move on. This really depends on how conscious you are of your partners and what you are writing, you are aware that you have partners who remind you of qualities more of negative aspects of your mother.
Do not judge yourself for this as there is always learning. Each day, become a little more conscious and aware of what’s happening and ask yourself what you can learn from the experience. What can you teach each other and what can you learn? It’s also important to be compassionate with yourself and to remind yourself that if you can practice patience, set healthy boundaries, use your wisdom self in making wise decisions, you will come closer to the truth of who you really are. If the relationship continues to be negative, you can either get some counseling or choose to leave, take the lessons you have learned and seek a healthier partner. Set intentions for what you truly want to have in this relationship and be specific and clear. Allow yourself in your intentions to call forth more love. Sit daily and resonate with this. You can have the thought and say those words to yourself out loud and even write this sentence down. See where it takes you then give gratitude and see what happens. Remember that your answers are within.