Q: How can I get my partner to notice me more for he seems so preoccupied at times?
A: There are three basic emotional A’s that you may want to practice on your partner and I believe he will respond.
- Attention: Pay attention to your partner. You notice him and give him the attention he needs and he will notice how you are there for him. Ask him what he needs from you. It will mean a lot and he will feel the same toward you.
- Affection: Show your partner affection; a kiss on the cheek, a hug, touch him, be physically close to him. It is a wonderful way to connect you and your partner emotionally and it is a wonderful way to heal your body and soothe your soul. Affection is known to strengthen your immune system and we all could use a little immune boost during these times.
- Appreciation: Everyone likes to feel and be appreciated. It’s a lovely gesture. It’s a way of demonstrating your love verbally. Let him know what you love about him. It will feed your partner’s heart. Even if you live together or you are in the same town, a hand written note is always appreciated. It’s done so rarely these days, we all like to receive something lovely in the mail. Words can mean everything to someone. Be sincere and practice appreciation three times a day for three minutes. It will open up both of your hearts and we want to keep our hearts open to love.
You will also notice how your partner will shift his awareness to you. Don’t be surprised if you start being noticed.