Q: My parents sent me off to an inpatient therapy center so I could work on “my problems,” yet they both drink too much and refuse to get help for themselves. It is so hard to be with them and ts been going on for years. I’m 30 years old. What can I do?
A: I hope that your time in treatment was helpful for you. While it is difficult to see your parents in this state, you may not be able to help them change, however, you can continue to help yourself. I would like to suggest Al-Anon meetings for you. This is a support group for those who have family members who struggle with alcohol. There are many on-line groups that you can join so you have the support you need. Most meetings begin with reading the twelve steps of Al-Anon. I don’t know if you live near your parents, but wherever you are, it’s important that you set healthy boundaries with them. If you see them, you may want to limit your visits and when you talk with them on the phone, you can do the same.
Continue to get support for yourself and you will be able to use better healthy coping techniques to keep you healthy. If you find yourself not having healthy boundaries or unable to cope, you may want to contact a therapist who works with co dependency and family members of alcoholics in addition to Al-Anon. Take extreme self care and stay well.