Q: I am ready to begin a new relationship and I want to know some strategies to attract a healthy partner. Can you provide some starters?
A: Attracting a healthy partner is significant for joy in your relationship. First and foremost, you have to love yourself first. Self-love truly is a pre-requisite to a healthy partnership. It is essential that you pay attention to the person being in alignment behaviorally with what he/she says. Actions do speak louder than words, so watch the behavior and look for the alignment. Look for authenticity, compassion, genuineness, congruence, sense of humor, laughter, and empathy. If this person is comfortable in his/her own skin, and is he/she asking you questions about yourself? It’s helpful to be brutally honest because if you turn your head and refuse to see what is, you could be headed for a difficult road ahead.
As you get to know this person, you can begin to take note of what you both want. While you will not agree on everything, by following some guidelines, you can escape the harrowing effects of falling for someone who Is unavailable.
- Set your Intention of what you want
- Focus on the reality of the situation at hand
- Take time to get to know the person
- Be aware of potential
- Notice the attentiveness and openness this person is giving you