Q: How can I stop comparing myself to others? I know this is hurting my self-esteem.
A: Comparing oneself to others is a natural tendency, yet it can be detrimental to your self-esteem as you are stating. Often when we compare ourselves to others, we tend to feel a sense of lack and don’t see ourselves in a favorable light as we should. It can be positive if we emulate the positive qualities we see in others and feel good about ourselves.
You want to refrain from judging yourself as better or less than others. These natural comparisons start early on. Your self-esteem has to come from being you. Your life is designed for your soul’s growth and working with what each day brings your way. Keep your sights on you in order to build healthy self-esteem. Recognize all of your attributes and focus on them rather than comparing yourself to others. It’s great to see the attributes in others, however, your attributes are a unique part of you and only you. Focus on that uniqueness and build what you have as opposed to what you lack.
Remember to keep your eyes on yourself and you will flourish. This can forge a beautiful freedom within yourself. Praise yourself for all of your gifts and strengths. Show humility and avoid comparisons to foster self-compassion and self-love. Do this every day and you will notice that you will flourish.