Q: My thoughts are out of balance according to my friends. They say I think the worst and I am negative especially when it comes to my physical body. I think I am fat, especially my hips and thighs. What should I do to change my negative thoughts because I don’t even notice?
A: Chances are you have programmed early on to learn this way of thinking. It doesn’t mean you have to remain this way. The fact that your friends brought this into your awareness can be a constructive criticism because they truly care about you. As one of my favorite teachers, Dr. Wayne Dyer, wrote, “When you change your thoughts, and what you believe about what’s possible for you, you change everything, including your physiology.”
It’s about getting into your inner dialogue and to sound something like, I’m healthy and heading in the direction of optimal health and well-being. I love my body and I choose to take great care of it.
This is a shift in your thinking, yet if you begin to say this to yourself daily, even though you don’t believe it, you will start to believe it. As you begin this new daily ritual, you are changing the way you are looking at and feeling about your body, then the body you are looking at will change.
You will also feel better just shifting this awareness. You will not only begin to feel better, but you will also look the way you desire and feel as though you are accomplishing what you want without having to go on a diet. Diets don’t work, you go on and you go off and it becomes a vicious emotional and physical cycle that only promotes poor body image.
How about just saying every positive statement you can about yourself?
You can fill your glass half full. This new belief will overshadow your core belief of not being worthy, therefore, your negative thoughts emerged. Your new belief system is going to be the balance point allowing you to enjoy a loving and caring relationship with your body.