Q: I have a feeling that my boyfriend is lying to me but I cannot prove it. Is there a way to know for sure?
A: Many people have a range of lies. It could be something very small like when someone asks you how you are feeling and you say “fine” when you really don’t because you don’t want to deal with it. It could be much more like interviewing someone for a job and they lie about their achievements. In your situation, tap into you intuition and listen carefully as you watch your boyfriend’s behavior; i.e. how he is responding or reacting? Is his body language closed, constricted or open? Does he put his hands on his face? Is he making good eye contact? It’s helpful to notice just how he behaves when you think he is lying and you may get a better inner knowing. Do you feel he is being manipulative with you? Does he have an inappropriate level of concern? Pay attention to his behaviors and chances are he will get caught if he is lying. Once someone lies you can usually spot it and you can call him out on it. He may deny his lying, however by confronting him, he will know you are onto his behavior.
You may want to tell him that you want a healthy, honest relationship that is real. Some people lie to impress and they want to look good because they have a low self-esteem. But in the long run, lying is only going to hurt him if in fact he continues, and you will want to think twice about being in a non-honest relationship with someone. There are many guys out there who are honest and will be that way with you. It’s a much healthier way to be with someone.