Q: Can you help me develop some tools to learn before I bring a new partner into my life?

A: The first tool is to listen to your inner voice when you are debating about bringing a potential partner into your life. If you do and it still doesn’t work out, look for the greater good that the relationship gave you. We are in a relationship to learn and grow.

  1. Ask yourself if the person is a expansion of who you are.
  2. Is the person in alignment with his/her actions?
  3. Assess your own unhealed wounds and ask yourself if you are ready for partnership if you have unhealed wounds. You most likely still have healing work to do.
  4. It is not our job to heal anyone else.
  5. You also do not have control over anyone.
  6. Whatever your potential partner offers you, you ca enjoy the expansion.
  7. Be aligned with your true self. That’s all that matters.
  8. There are no mistakes, only lessons and you either grow from them or repeat them.
  9. Feel empowered just as you are.
  10. Allow breakdowns to become breakthroughs.