Q: I am a single mother and I have been dating someone for a year and a half. I recently broke it off as I am not happy with myself when I am with him. He was initially very upset but seems better now. He and my son are close and I don’t know how to tell my son. Help!
A: While It sounds like you and your partner may be ending this relationship, your son and partner have a nice bond between them. How about you talk with your partner about remaining close with your son and if he’s not too vulnerable about being around you, perhaps you all can visit occasionally. If you are comfortable, maybe he could take your son on some outings. It can also be helpful to talk with your son about his feelings for this man and once you know your partner would be open to this, it sounds like it could be a healthy situation for all.
It can also be healthy role modeling for your son to see the two of you communicating well and continuing to maintain a healthy friendship should it move in that direction. If your partner doesn’t initially agree, don’t be surprised as he may not be ready until he feels he has healed. It’s worth a try to discuss this with your partner and see if a healthy resolution can occur so it can be a win-win for all.