Q: My spouse and I have been arguing more lately and I have asked him to go to counseling with me. He doesn’t say much and the problem seems to be communication. Can you give me advice on what to do as I want to save the marriage?
A: It sounds as though if your spouse isn’t saying much, there is a lack of communication. Was he always this way or has he become less communicative recently? Even though he is not comfortable with counseling now, I would advise you to talk with someone and perhaps If you share with your spouse that you are seeing a counselor and you would like for him to try it because you are invested in the marriage, maybe he will choose to get professional help. If he does not attend, you can work with someone and get some tools to help yourself.
You may also let your spouse know that you value the commitment you both made and you are seeking the help of a professional. It takes two to dance the dance, and he will either choose to invest in making the marriage work or he won’t. Meanwhile, you will be better prepared to make the decision that will ultimately be in your highest good.