Q: Can you give me some suggestions to help my friends seek some counseling? They know they need some help, but they are hesitant to go.
A: Seeking counseling should be just like going to the medical doctor for a check-up. Ask your friends if they schedule appointments with their doctor and dentist. Chances are they do and you can follow-up by telling them that checking in with their mental health is just as important. Some people even call it a check-up from the neck up or a mental tune-up.
The following items can help your friends determine if perhaps they should schedule an appointment to meet with a mental health professional:
- Sleep. If you have difficulty falling or staying asleep, there may be something underlying that is interfering with sleep.
- Physical well-being. If you have any physical health concerns, most likely your mental health is connected to this at Some capacity. If you are not feeling well emotionally, chances are you will have a physical manifestation.
- Overall Mood. If there are days you feel off or down, that is a part of being human, however, if you are sad most days or feel depressed more often than not, you may want to talk with a professional therapist.
- Substance Use. If you find you are using substances to alter your mood, you may be crossing the line into addiction. Good idea to assess your intake and if it seems excessive, it would be a good idea to be evaluated.
- Relationships. If you are struggling with finding healthy friendships or having a healthy relationship with a significant other, then you may want to seek out some counseling to discuss and find healthy ways to attract healthy friendships with others.
- Purpose and Meaning. It’s important to have a purpose and meaning in your life. Understanding how to set healthy goals and have healthy action steps to achieve your goals. What are your goals and dreams? What gives you meaning in your life?
- Career and financial stability. Do you have a career that is meaningful for you? Are you able to sustain a comfortable living and feel satisfied?
If any of these items are challenging for you and you feel the need to talk with someone, then it’s a good idea to seek professional counseling to help you get the guidance and direction you are seeking.