Q: How can I help my boyfriend to show his vulnerability? He tries to act so tough and I know he is vulnerable.
A: Vulnerability is something that all of us have. However, depending on how we were raised, many struggle to show their vulnerable self. The male generation was taught to be strong and tough, not vulnerable. There are many, especially men who believe that they can only show their strong, confident side. They feel if they don’t it is looked upon as a weakness. However, this is not the case. To me, there is nothing sexier for a man to show his vulnerable self. Evolved men know this. Insecure men struggle with this.
You may want to share with your boyfriend that it’s totally okay to be vulnerable and that we all have vulnerabilities. We all need support, love and caring. There is a part of all of us who feel needy at times, we frightened, have self-doubts and anger. Anger is a mask for hurt and pain. What we all need is acceptance. Reassure him of this and let him know you accept his vulnerable side.
By allowing yourself to be and show your vulnerability will help him to feel he can show and express his vulnerability. This will bring about a closeness in your relationship that will take it to another level.
