Q: Is it alright to confront someone when you feel he is treating you or someone else poorly?
A: Confrontation can be most helpful for all involved. It basically brings an important and legitimate issue to the forefront and can no longer be ignored. Confrontation doesn’t have to be hostile or belittling.Confronting in a firm but unwavering way is addressing the person’s behavior, not his core personality. That is where the focus needs to be. You possibly will get defensiveness on the receiving end, however, you stay calm yet strong and no matter how manipulative this person may be, stay consistent and speak your truth. Depending on the personality traits of the person you are confronting, you may feel you have confronted a bus going down a hill with no brakes! You don’t want to be flattened like a pancake. Once the flood gates open, look out. It’s important that you stay consistent and do not back down as you know the truth and reality of what this person did. He may try every trick in the book to get out of taking on any responsibility. Do not let him get away with that.
Remember, you care enough to bring up an important issue and address it to get a positive outcome. It’s up to you to take charge and do it quickly so you are not put on the defensive! You have in mind your own set of boundaries and expectations you plan to use to get the intended results you want from the confrontation. Be willing to enforce these boundaries, limits and expectations to get the most out of what your intention and desired result is.